Where's Me? Finding Room For Yourself Through Inner Work w/Amber Dolan-Bath

Amber is a self discovery coach and dreams strategist here to guide you inwards as you explore and navigate life’s transitions. We talk about listening to your inner voice and being able to decipher how to make room for yourself in the midst of life.

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Transcript

[bianca_morra]: 0:01

hello hello and welcome to another episode of helped me see today we have a special repeat guest

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oh

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i don't have a lot of repeat guest so

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okay

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i fall we have amber dolan bath here and i'm so excited to have this chat amber how are you thank you for being here

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i am blessed to be here i love your presence and just excited

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i'm so excited to get into it i the number one reason why i really want to have a conversation with you today of all days is because something that's hot off there press is your new program the temple and i wanted to talk about that and really get into the why and what is behind it and how it came b because i think that what's so special about what you're doing is the fact that there really isn't

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it

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a model that came before it

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oh

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and i love the idea of when we come into these moments where we realize there's a b c and d and e and f and i don't like any of the options

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oh

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and i think it's really easy to not realize that we force

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oh

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ourselves to pick an option that doesn't sit well with us instead of creating our own there's so many times where even though i'm like super aware and try to be super intentional that i'm doing things and was i'm like why the fuck am i doing it like this i don't even want to do it like

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hm

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this i can make up my own way but it's really hard to see that sometimes so first just like what is this program

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oh

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and then we'll go from there and where did it come from

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okay first off i want everyone to know that i learned a fun fact about podcasting today and i'll get into everything and just a second but as you were talking i was like bianca or like thirty percent like we are above seventy percent of people who start podcast so if you make it past episode eight of a podcast you

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a

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automatically have by past podcast fade and are above seventy percent of people who started podcasts and i

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that's

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know that

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incredible

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you are way past episode so

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i passed

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random

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the baby

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plus oh

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as the speed that's exciting

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yes yes i just want to celebrate that because what you're doing here is absolutely incredible okay

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yes

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so the temple actually i need to start with my wife because it's the heart of who i am i had a spiritual awakening back in twenty

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m

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fifteen my now husband but then boy friend had broken up with me and i was just ready to stop living by other people's rules and start living intentionally in my perfectionist attitude just kept going on repeat and my hiding other people because i was different than them was still playing on repeat and so i have done a lot of programs and a lot of work to finally get to this understanding of oh spirit loves me my spirit my soul my intuition loves me and that's the same for everyone else to bianca's soul chose her like it just we are innately love and i love this my inter voice my soul gave me this beautiful synonym of love is the same as spirit is the same as you they're all synonyms of one another and so for me i went about my journey and had many ups and downs in life post partem being one of them raising a child is not easy every like single day right and i have to show up now for her as much as i'm showing up for me and i don't want her to live in a closet where she as to hide herself and not be who she is which means i have to do that first and so

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hm

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i created the spirit of new temple which is my brand my platform because i we have to go within we have to do quoteoquote work but not for anyone else so we can tap into the self love that we already have within us an and live out our life and be seen and heard and witnessed and honored and acknowledged ourselves first and then by others so that's why i created my brand

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hm

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and then the temple is just this like really easy way to join and viana you don't know this yet but nastasa now yes nastalga now which is bianca's program was me n you had talked about photography and how to bring photos

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m

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into the mix with you but the one thing i love about nostalgia now is the closing of one chapter in the opening of another

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m

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and so the first of every month we're now meeting in the temple to

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m

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close out the previous chapter and whatever the soul has guided us to the emotions that we have come through wisdom that's come through and then moving into a new month with a new chapter and it was nasaltanalik as soon as i tapped into the why of why i love nastlgia now so much i was

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m

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like i love the fact that we can close out each month and be conscious create is with our phones but now i'm saying it let's bring it to our souls

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yeah and you know that cadence to

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yea

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the month it's so empowering because i think that's part of the reason why we love when seasons change it's like oh it feels like an opera two unity for something new it's like it's going to feel different like in these months so

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oh

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what do we want in this

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yes

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season but really

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come

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we really have that every

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yeah

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moment of the day but it doesn't feel like that right

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right

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so having ontainer of sorts that isn't doesn't have the power to make weather

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oh

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feel different but you know i come together and have this like opening and closing of something that is smaller it's a me because it gives us so many more opportunities in a year to

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yeah

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really look at our life with the different lens with like that

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ah

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hindsight twenty

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yeah

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twenty

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amen

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um why this container why you made a point to say for you first and then to be witnessed

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i

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by a community can you talk a little bit about the

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yeah

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order of that and how you've even mentioned before when you were talkin about how obviously your daughter is like part of the reason of why you want to make sure that she is able to be fully you know embodied and expressed how how did that follow your core desire of this and also the program itself

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oh

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the u and then the community

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so one thing becoming a mom especially was this

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ah

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really hard reminder

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yes

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that everything can be so consuming um you can be doing everything for your husband and everything for your children and everything for your friends and this was how but of mine it just it wasn't until lily that i really i understood what i had been doing because i had no time left um and so peeling back all of these layers of why i'm doing what i'm doing am i doing this because i want to or am i doing this because i have to and then also going behind that layer of being like and even if i want to do i have the time energy in space for it the reason why you have to do it for you first is because if you do it for anyone else you're just adding to a cup that's already full and i don't mean like your love cup that's already full your cup that i've consumed everyone else's energy and everyone else's time and feelings and emotions and opinions and facts into this cup and you're like where's me is me so when you join any program you really have to tune into is this my time am i really truly doing it for me or am i doing it too get someone to like me or get someone to love me or to better myself to continue this process of improving myself for the sake of love at the end of it and if that's the case you're going to be on a hampsterwheel and so doing it for you really means like tapping into your body and being like is this the time is this the season do i have the energy to put towards me do i want to put the energy towards me and once you start making a choice of being like oh i really i have carved out time for myself this year or i haven't carved out time for myself the entire summer we're moving into a new season fall here in north america like you're able to be like okay cool i want to put time towards me because i want to fill my cup i want to feel better internally not for any external thing then the community p is like one to get people to hear you and see you who are basically strangers i mean you're not hopping unless you are bringing your best friend into the program which awesome but like unless you're doing that you're with a group of strangers so those secrets that you've been hiding those little things that you haven't given the time or space for because you're to someone else's opinion we now in the temple only want what's best for other people in the temple like that is the rule number one you want what's best for yourself and you want what's best for the people in the temple so your your family is opinions are not going a spew through us you our friends opinions aren't going to spew through us we just get to witness you and then share you on

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so something that comes to mind often when i think about tuning in and it's so funny because just recently i've really uncovered this oh this divide between my ability to do this with a camera on my face and then without it which is interesting

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okay

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when making my art when i'm not actively

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oh

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in my craft is this ability to decipher your intuition because you keep referring to go in and listen to what you want what you want but like so many of us

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i

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at a point where it's so fucking foggy s like what do i want and i do believe that we all know but i think it's really wildly frustrating to hear that you know i was like no

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yeah

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i don't know i don't know you know because there's so much even when you say you know as be for you before anyone else it's like it's so easy to justify joining a program or buying something when the end

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yes

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goal is like for my kids for my partner for the sake

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m

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of our marriage for for my dog but it's like a program

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my

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like yours

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dog i love that

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program like yours

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yeah

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where it's literally it's like no you it's like very confronting it's like temple of you um how what do you say someone that's like has one has some trouble being able to justify a using the quote thing justify committing

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ah

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to something that's just for them and then so this idea

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a

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of like how it can be really hard to feel confident in hearing your voice

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um so i want to address the fact that one of my favorite clients came to me end of last year and she's like amber i don't know what i want like when we did the visualization of like a year from now she could not do that so i tended it for three months from now and she couldn't do that either like she really she could see in front of her and the work i do with clients allows for the fog to go away we do a lot of emotional releasing and so sometimes just tuning in to your body of like where's the frustration where's the anger where's the sadness where's the fear let's tend to those parts of you so then you can see in front of you is really important and you don't even need to just join the temple for that lie just d m and we can hop on a soul activation call like i'm here for it they're free let's do it but i needed to say that because and now she's in the temple and she has a vision for her sure and it's taken her months to get there but at the end of the day she did it for herself and she did it and she's proud of herself and she's smiling like she was not smiling nine months ago and that's not just because of my work that's because she chose herself over and over and over and over and over again in her life um m okay i forgot your question but i definitely knew that that needed to come through sorry

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i forgot it too

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yea

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because and then i think of another question is well not even question

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ye

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just a point of like

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oh

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i think that with all of the information overload that happens and like all of the resources we have available to us personally i'll just say that it's to me it's always a green flag when whatever resource whatever coach whatever person is re directing you back to yourself

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hm

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um instead of like a step by step because i think

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may

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that it's the harder thing to offer it's the harder thing to say and standing in that like no i'm not i can't really give you a recipe because really if i did whether it works or not is kind of irrelevant it's what's resonating with you so re directing someone back to theirselves is like really hard work but also the most important and the truest work i believe i had asked about the justification of like being able to at first buy something that's like for me or commit to something that's just for me and not for my kids or for something else or without something else in mind but also the idea

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yea

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that it can be con using when you even when you say where is the frustration in your body where is the baba like how can someone that isn't familiar with this work do that maybe maybe the best way to explain it is to talk about your soul activation calls or

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yeah

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your background and you know

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yeah oh

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what you've studied

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o i am a intervoice facilitator trained

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we

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through the lively community just lively she has a podcast whole foundation like it's she's done incredible things but basically she was fascinated by abraham hicks that ster hicks could channel this entity abraham and she was like i didn't believe it the first like a hundred times i heard it like she was taking it but then she was like well let me tune into my body and like see if i can chain thing it should basically be found that everyone can channel their own soul they just have to get quiet enough to do it and so i ate that all up because basically i had been living a life of everyone told me all of the rules on which i needed to follow and that was not working for me it was not working for me was not worry so i was tuning into my soul and everything that my family husbands like friends were like you can't do shouldn't do like play safe i stayed home with lily i quick my job decided i was going full time into my gig tarted a podcast did a trip to california like all of these things just unfolding because i was listening to my intuition you can only receive the information from your intuition again when you've gotten clear to do so and the clearing of that is the emotional centers of your body and emotions can exist anywhere but basically if you closed your eyes right now which i know can be scary for so many human beings i was so scared of meditation i'm so scared of what was going come forth when i closed my eyes and felt into my body if it's appearing to you especially when you've decided to get centered and you say to yourself so if you could close your eyes and hail into your body place your awareness where you've heard your gut feeling before that intuitive knowing that something good bad if you needed to do something and then once you feel into that place ask your inner voice are you there as soon as you get your yes that's where you can ask any question feel into your emotional body being like where am i feeling sad where am i feeling that angry where am i feeling that joy why the hell do i listen to ambrambianca right now and like why like what's that feeling that brings up to you why you're listening to us like what does bianca ring to the table that you love so much feel into that feeling and you take the shape and you feel into the emotional bubble if you will and it can be like a block it can be an empty hole like this is not a one size fits all approach but it's just like where are you feeling it what's inside of it what's the shape but and you keep breathing until you've processed it and that could be through tears it can be through shaking free through sound it can just be through breath exhaling key in this and just like why it's so important is to get to the intuitive place because we're not just the mind and we identify so much with the mind which is this lovely amazing thing but it's also running off right now and not of love so once you're able to bring love back into the equation at the beginning of this show i said is the synonym to spirit the synonym to you then you're able to like oh this is what i want to do and it can be as simple as bianca is drinking coffee right now i mean i'm not an m percent short like she could be like oh i want to drink my coffee with sugar today i mean she doesn't but she could because they're still told er to like you start with the little things you start with the basic decisions throughout your day so then you can do it with the big scary issues that you're too scared to get quite what yourself for

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first of all how do you know i don't use sugar because i don't

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okay because

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yes

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you announce it and earn stall on

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of course i shared about my coffee habit

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yes yeah

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okay beautiful and so what now connecting the dots when you go and you said okay until when you hear yes then you're ready but if you don't hear yes then in theory or in practice it there's stuff to clear there's emotions to clear so what it is what you're saying so what it sounds like to me is

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you

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that

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can always get so that's the thing so even if you don't have the only reason why your intuition is not going to come through because your mind is blocking tuition because it's scared of what

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m

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it's going to say so the basic

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we're

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question

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sisicated

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of are you here

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yeah

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allows your intuition to say i'm here and then from that place you can do the emotional work or you can ask more questions but that's the

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hm

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most basic question because your soul is going to be able to cut through your mind with that one most generally if you don't receive an answer i don't want you to do the emotional work because it means you're doing it from the mind and trying to like i need to force this versus like allowing

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m

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it to move through so i do know

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yeah

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any one to do the emotional work and thank you for bringing that up until

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m

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they've heard their inner voice their soul their spirit that says i'm here because

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m

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once it says i'm here then you're able to process

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m

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yes

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you know i find that in so many ways

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ah

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this kind of nugget is so important to distinguish and i feel like it took me

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oh

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it took me a bit to really

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yeah

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know this and

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yeah

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instead of cognitively know it just feel like

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ah

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this is true because sometimes it can feel so not true in that whatever is that we are meant to do want to do purpose why whatever it is it really is the peeling off all of the ship

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it

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that's on us rather than searching and waiting through honey and a forest and whatever and looking through the depths of the internet and you know to find ourselves it really is it's just at our core and

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yes

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it's just all of the ship that's on top of us that has been placed on from even good things like good things

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a

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and bad things that's why it's so confusing is that like some of the things that are in the way of a c ourselves are you know

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yeah

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loved ones and things that feel good

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yeah

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but they're not great and

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yeah and another question that you had asked is like how do you invest in just yourself without the end goal of something else happening and

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yes

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i want to address that i mean there's been plenty of times that i've signed up for something that the goal was for to make more money that was like my biggest thing even when i worked with coaches and not a business coach it was always to i to better myself to make more money i was always

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hm

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about the money and then i signed up for which is funny enough nostalgia now and that was the first one where i wasn't i mean there's no way i can be like signing up for nesta now for the money

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yeah

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like you take

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no

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photos

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guys

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right like you don't do that you don't do that and so it had to be for me and i even with that one i was like oh i'll do it for my daughter like i'll take the photos

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yeah

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of my daughter and put it into the this beautiful kalage that you create

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m

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but i was like two months i think i was month one maybe month two and i was like none of these photos of my daughter i think it took the second month i was like none of these photos are of my daughter is all of me um so even then like i sign for someone else and it came back around so maybe you have like this external reason but just know that it ends up being about you at the end of the day no matter what you sign up for

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and that's good

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yeah

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that's good that's not i think that i really grimace every time you know i hear the word selfish or even now a

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at

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grimace more when i hear self list like

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yes i agree with that versed

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no selfless

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yeah

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because it's like it's not it's not this ulteristic like it's just

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he

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if you look a little bit beyond that you'll always uncover something that doesn't feel good like when the times where i you know am running myself ragged for my kids is not when i feel the most loving it's just not you know and it's

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hm

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just like the surface badge of i did it for them but really at the end of the day what are you getting you know a pat on the back from someone that

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no

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doesn't really care about you you know

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no

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like the only person that would commend something that is being selfless is someone that doesn't isn't as concerned with your well being right

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right right yeah

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anyway i just feel these conversations are so important because i don't know i think that as

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a

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you're saying you know all these programs and i've signed up for so many programs horses and i am i think that is one of my number one i don't want to call it a vice but like it's just a tendency i have that i want to move away from is like everything i do i thrive when i'm oh i see how this ties into the puzzle of x y z a b c d e f g like i love learning a love education and i can feel

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oh

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a little bit more lost when it comes to doing something for the joy of it like i've been putting off going signing up for a dance class and i've been wanting to dance i

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bianca

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en wanted

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me

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to dance

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too me

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what

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too and in fact at the end of this month there's one location here that for young adults can do modern classes and i

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ambrelooking

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love modern

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for modern classes specifically

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oh my god yes

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i

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yes and i've been reading because most of the tan students around here is like young kids young kids young kids and

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yes

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then i was like i needed class for me so i thought about doing one on one there's a place like twenty minutes that i can go and start doing modern classes and i'm like i'm signing up like i have to make this the priority because it's about my joy at the end of the day so i hope that you find this or class of yours

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wait what are you doing it

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i'm doing like literally i think it starts in two weeks

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okay yeah i've been having trouble so i growing up i danced hip hop for years and i didn't like i love

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love

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it but i really wanted something different but love dance and actually what really made me what sparked it in me is oh my gosh we just signed up for a nasalgia now

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oh by god just because we're talking about it it's because at this very moment in time even though no one has heard this episode yet the energy i just put out about nesta like four times just like hello an i'm just kidding i'm not taking any credit for this guys

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whatever credit you want you probably talk about it more than i do honestly

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i mean i talk about it a lot

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well let's know that your identity will not be revealed but you are so so

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i'm

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welcomed

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celebrating

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and celebrated

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this

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right

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person

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now sorry i just looked at my phone because i have to pick up my son pretty soon and as i was like

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sorry guys i arrived late to this call

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i can say

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yeah

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okay so with the dance i don't know if you've seen it but this is a tangent i might count this out actually no i won't

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no

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cut this out

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keep

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whatever

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it i love talking about dance

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do you like

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like

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hosier or do you know him

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yeah

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the singer

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yes

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so his song work song i believe it's work song i think i think it is that's my favorite song over but this music video of his they're doing modern dance and it's just

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i have

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right

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to look this up because modern is my favorite modern

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oh my

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is

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god

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my favorite

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and i've never done it before and i've just ave just always felt this pull and you know the brain says lie like you're you know you're thirty or some three years old like you're gonna be in no competition or become a dancer or why you doing that i want to do it

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yeah

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i just want to

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yeah

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i just really want to and to me like i'm going to feel so silly

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yes

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i'm out of shape i'm this i'm not

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ah

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like what if i don't remember my biggest thing here we go my

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i

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biggest thing is what if i don't pick up the moves as quickly because i don't bercoreography as quickly and

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yeah

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it's the same thing

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yeah

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that came up for me i actually brought it up in or in a way in our call earlier amber of the master mind when i was i went to do a contract job at a studio

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ye

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i felt in me this feeling of severe unrest until i knew i could exceed expectations and i was like who what is that why is that like and why is it that we're so sophisticated that in some areas of life we can so boldly do the opposite but in others like we're a different entity

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m

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like i'm like okay i'm choosing this completely me

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oh

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you know carving out my path no

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what

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one even knows that i'm doing type of thing and i'm okay with that because there

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oh

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are maybe it's because there are no expectations because no one knows what the hell i'm doing but then in this other regard i'm like i'm only okay

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yeah

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if i feel like i'm doing better than expected no so

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and you

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anyway

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know it's funny is i wasn't once concerned that i'm out of shape for this modern class not once and now that you said it my mind was like

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oh no

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oh amber you are out of shape and i'm like you know what you know this is this is great part where i can be like high inner voice are you here yes is it safe for me to feel my feelings yes let me tap it into the feelings of not you know huffing and puffing like the embarrassment that's the emotion the embarrassment i'm already projecting into the future

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what's so funny about that is that look at

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ye

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us

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ye

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pingbonging what's so funny about that to me is that when i say out of shape i'm like i

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yeah

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don't even i get out of shape going up my stairs in my house

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i mean

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like

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safe

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i not even and about that i'm concerned about

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m

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out of the shape of like being able to perform as if as if this is like a performance type of thing which it's not it's

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no

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for the joy of it again when i danced i was going to competitions

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hm

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so i must do it so it's just

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yes

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i love i love unearthing how different all

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we

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of our like one sentence could trigger us both in different ways like i

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oh

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didn't

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for

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think

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sure

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about it like that at all you thought like that there was something

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yeah

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else that happened i was with my partner and i was like oh my god we have so many different oh no no no it was i was having a conversation with some of my dearest friends

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a

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and their coaches and i would say that i am more you know in the last year or two just becoming more and more ingrained in this life coach arena

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o oh

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it's so funny because i listen to them talk about how you know how many and how saturated and i don't have

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a

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that perception at all it's

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right

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like

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right

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at all and it's funny because i have that feeling about even though i ignore it and

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an

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it really doesn't give me any baggage but photographers always say the market is so saturated so saturated in s like yeah to you but not really to people that are not photographers you know

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yes

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it's just it's so interesting

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um when do you have to go just so don't keep

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um

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talking

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in five minutes

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okay okay so this will be quick and this is totally putting you on the spot but like do not

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oh

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answer and like don't even respond like don't even think about this until after but today amber was talking about and released from our coach one of our business coaches talked about she pays for hotel rooms for her guests to come

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hm

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okay so she and we're like she's talking so we could then share our money fears so then she could help in the pingfun right so she says that and instantly ready for this guys this is amazing bianca is at her photography i was like i am bringing bianca to my event in twenty twenty three i'm paying for her dam hotel room like i am going to get rich so i can bring the ana to nehamtropa her telegram so she can be the photographer of my event and like that's

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uh

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how amazing we are so i don't care how saturated the market is once you get to know people

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oh

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and you get to see their hearts like

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oh my god

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it's amazing like your work is incredible

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full body goose moms feeling very emotional in the moment that's just

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yeah

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so it speaks so much

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yes

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to like and again you know were wrapping up this with a bow in that look at that just look at that there's so many other people like you probably even googling like near me like there's just so many options but like a soul is a soul is a soul and it's that person

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yes

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like it doesn't you know it's funny because i can get very wrapped up in analysis paralysis and like wanting to do my due diligence and like research all of the options before i choose x y z but there's something about person you like connect with a person

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a

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where the feeling of having to investigate all of my options falls away

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yes

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just falls away like when

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i

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i

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was

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was looking at for my we didn't end up getting married but for my vow

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oh

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photos we call them the vows because we got dressed up in our my dress and his whatever um so we flew

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i have

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out mike

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to know this story at some point because like i hear bits and pieces of whatever

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yeah

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and i'm like there is not a full picture for me here i

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we've

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love

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been together

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it i love

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like

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it

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ten fourteen years

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oh

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and whatever he's a paper at this point

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oh

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anyway we flew out my my dearest friend that used to work with he was he's a wedding photographer from california and then what i was really having trouble with is videographer because i didn't know a videographer

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m

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and so i didn't have the meeting connection and i felt very like overwhelmed and i was like looking

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and

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and you know i'm looking at it with like ourteen different eyes like

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ah

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what i wanted and i felt so stressed and the second i found the one i had zero impulse to look further it is like that

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right

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i looked

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so

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at

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start

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a

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asking

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hundred

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the universe

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yeah

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for science of who it is that you want to interact with whether it be a photographer videoographer or like what grocery store you want to go to you can ask your inner

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m

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voice or all these questions and an go to exact location without your mind interfering with the ten thousand reasons why you shouldn't or should do something else

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and and it's also that you know deep down that like especially when it's something like this like choosing someone like you creating an event is like one of the most precious things that you could do and

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yes

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like so anyone that you pull into that is so

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oh

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imperative like what energy they bring and i just actually did a post

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oh

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before we hopped on about how you know i know as like photographer s at least like we could leave a session and be like oh i could have done

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m

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have done why i could have done z i

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m

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wish i would have thought to go up there and take the photo instead of there but really my number one comment before anything else is that we need to remember that the end product

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ah

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like the photograph

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just

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is part of the equation the most important is the experience because

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oh yeah

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even if you take the most gorgeous photos the energy was not what that

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a

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energy is attached to the images so when you look not only

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a

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did you impact the integrity of the experience but then when the persons looking at the photos

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you

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they're thinking oh we were so hurried because there was a lot of pressure because the sun was going down and this and that like there's so much attached

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so

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to like everything so um just being present with the experience in the nergy that you want to have is everything else can just fall into place after that

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yes one thousand per cent and there's also like when i was thinking about photographers before today there was two that came to mine i was like i wonder like how i'm going to choose

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m

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i was like you know what it's like nine months from now i'm solid like i got some time

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yeah

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and then amber said her comment of just the hotel room and i got the intuitive pink the intuitive nudge my soul being like once i was like now what she just went away for two weeks she could totally do a weekend pure yeah

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yeah that was the last podcast episode

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oh

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hopefully won't poke after yours

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yeah

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i was like i'm going to get some alone time i'm going to do something

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yeah

[bianca_morra]: 37:17

of that is spending

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well

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it over

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you have

[bianca_morra]: 37:18

a toilet

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you have the weekend that you're up in new hampshire anyways for ambers things

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i

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so

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do

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you can get adjusted at least

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yes i training ground anyway

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oh thank

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amber

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you

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this

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for having

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has been

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me on

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pleasure of course and i will actually speak to you tomorrow because i'm gonna be coming on your podcast

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oh

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i'm sure

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oh

[bianca_morra]: 37:40

this is not the last time luckily let us no where can we find more information about the temple anything that amber says right now will be in the show notes

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as i just go over to the spirit of you temple dot com from there you can find my instagram you can find my podcast you can find the soul activation called where you can get that for free and then you can sign up for the temple if feeling called to the temple or like just explore explore my site

[bianca_morra]: 38:10

thank you so much amber honestly it's such a unique offering and so needed and gorgeous so thank you for bringing that forward and thank you for being here

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you my dear